July 10th 2013. "Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, professors at the University of Rochester and developers of Self-Determination Theory, the most respected theory of human motivation, have shown that thriving results from satisfying three motivational drives: the desire to be autonomous: to make choices that are true to one's core, not imposed by others or one's inner critic; to be competent: using one's strengths and becoming skilled in life tasks; and to be connected: doing things that support others. These core drives are alive in us when it comes to taking good care of our mental and physical health, but for many people they seem to get buried and hidden from light. There are some people like me for whom health, fitness and self-care are non-negotiable; we discovered at some point that we are not sane, creative, productive or resilient otherwise. Or at least we would be operating well below the level we want to live with. So we invented and mastered a lifestyle that puts us in the driver's seat. We built and sustain the energy and strength to handle whatever life throws our way." To read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-moore/dont-let-others-control-y_b_635626.html By Margaret Moore.